12 Tools to overcome a deep craving episode

MY BADASS RECOVERY by Pamela
5 min readAug 30, 2020
Photo by Rebekah Baker

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. This guide is not intended as medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If your symptoms are acute, call 911.

As we step out of addiction, we all go through moments where we feel a deep craving for the substance/behavior that was the source of our addiction. It’s likely that you’ll experience this even more during early states of recovery.

Don’t despair, these attacks will subside as you recover — I promise. It’s important to know how to navigate them, so you can get yourself out, instead of succumbing to the addiction cycle again. Every time you say no to a craving, you take another step into the light.

1. Identify what’s happening: you are experiencing a craving episode.

These episodes feel very similar to an acute anxiety attack or panic episode.

Your mind, your body and your spirit feel overtaken by the need to revert to your addiction. Think of it as your addiction rebelling — whether it’s alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling, or even a relationship. What does your addiction want? To win. To take over and keep you captive.

To identify if you’re having an episode, check in with yourself. Are you feeling any (or multiple) of the symptoms below?

While this feels overwhelming — it will pass. You will be ok. Again, if you believe this to be an acute situation, where sudden onset symptoms have you in need of urgent care, please call 911.

Your goal is to calm down and take control. Remind yourself that what you’re feeling is an automatic response to your body and mind screaming for the relief of addiction — and that you are strong enough to ride this wave out. This is a normal part of early recovery, and by navigating it you will grow your recovery “muscle.” I try to imagine this as riding a wave. It has a beginning, a peak, and an end.

2. Pick a mantra to repeat:

  • I am ok. This will pass.
  • I am not my thoughts.
  • I am safe, I am whole, I am strong.
  • This is normal, and it’s temporary.
  • I can do this. Hell yes, I can.
  • Everything good is waiting on the other side of this.
  • I have to learn to navigate discomfort in order to grow.

3. Breathe deeply and slowly.

Find a place to be alone, if possible, and start “box breathing”:

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Count to 5 as you breathe in through your nose
  3. Hold your breath for 5 seconds
  4. Count to five as you breathe out slowly through your mouth
  5. Hold your breath for 5 seconds

4. Identify what your addiction wants from you.

Honesty and direct identification of what is happening is part of you taking control back from addiction’s hands.

5. Remind yourself: The voice of your addiction is not voice.

Look at the voice of your addiction separation and compassion. Look at it as a screaming toddler who just wants to have their way. Your answer? Not today.

6. Seek connection with your higher power

My higher power is God, who’s also reflected in Universe. Yours may be Energy, Mother Nature, God/Goddess, Buddha, Universal Consciousness or any other.

During an episode, you feel more alone than ever. Godless and groundless is the most dangerous (and painful) place to be. This is why it’s so important that you are intentional about creating that connection — whether for you that means prayer, meditation, being in silence, taking a walk, reading, or journaling.

If you are agnostic, reach connection with your higher — the elevated version of you, who reflects your highest wisdom, serenity, and wholeness.

What do I do in this step? I find a quiet spot, close my eyes and talk to my higher power. I pray. I talk it out. I ask questions. I either fall on my knees or sit on my ass. Sometimes I sit in my car and meditate. Whatever works for you. The important thing is to connect with whatever your higher power is, and seek guidance. Then, just listen.

7. Connect with a sponsor, mentor, coach or people in recovery.

Ideally, you won’t call another human being until you have checked in with your higher power first. Once you’ve done that, reach out and connect with a mentor, coach, sponsor, teacher, or a person who is also in recovery. Why? Because only they will “get” what you are going through. Recovery is reconnection — and it starts with getting guidance and support from those who have done this before you.

Sometimes just talking to another human being is enough to ride the episode out. If you can’t reach another person, try writing down what you are feeling or use the recorder on your phone to talk it out. Talking about anxiety can be enough to take its power away.

8. Give yourself compassion

Today, I’ve learned that self-compassion is a gentle confrontation with self, followed by the ability to self-soothe, forgive and implement self-love.

Soothe yourself the way you would with childhood self; with tenderness and request for accountability. As yourself: What is the best thing to do for yourself right now?

Suggested listen: Meditations — Owning your Truth & Be Your Best Friend

9. Check in with the basics: food, water, sleep.

Are you dehydrated? Are you hungry? (Sometimes, when you feel a massive craving to give in to your addiction, what you really need is a hamburger.) Give your body what it needs as soon as you get a chance.

When you’ve slept like crap, you are more vulnerable to deep craving episodes.

I’ve had a nap save me from relapsing more than once.

10. Pull out your essential oils (seriously)

The power of scent and aromatherapy is real. Elena Brower, whom I admire greatly, helped me learn about the benefits of introducing new chemistry into the limbic system through essential oils. This is the part of your brain that operates on instinct, and essential oils can interrupt negative sensations or thoughts and shift your thinking by helping your brain create new, more positive pathways.

I’m wild about using doTERRA essential oil blends , but you can achieve this same effect with any essential oil.

11. Move your body.

So go for a run, a yoga class, a bike ride. At the very least, take a quick walk outside and see the sky. Really — close your eyes and breathe in, facing the sky. Take it all in, and fill yourself with gratitude. You are alive.

12. When its over.

Like a muscle in your body, recovery is — in a way — also a “muscle”. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Mucho love, Pamela

Originally published at https://www.mybadassrecovery.com. Join my email list for free coaching meditations, made specifically for those in recovery.

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MY BADASS RECOVERY by Pamela

Certified Recovery Coach helping people build their own paths out of addiction and into the light. mybadassrecovery.com